Hi Reader,
I am grateful to be recovering well and supported to heal and integrate over the next 6 weeks.
2 months off is a big deal
My generosity is a well toned muscle, and I am experiencing the fullness of what generosity is as I am present from day to day during this recovery time.
I wish we would all take time to recover, that it was woven into society and that we took it no matter what.
For years, I lived as if this wasn't possible. That for me to have 2 months off would only happen in an emergency or if I, independently, had more money and resources.
I was wrong, and right.
Far beyond the BS of mindset I had to integrate and heal a significant number of experiences that had contributed to shaping me in the direction of survival. I had to decide to AND have the human/financial/mental/emotional/spiritual resources to heal.
I had to ask for help, over and over and over again. I had to get clear that (as an adult) I am my responsibility and blame was keeping me stuck. For this two months to happen I launched a Go Fund Me, waited until my kids were ready, said yes to a meal train and to friends coming to stay with me, help me and care for me.
I am lucky to have this, privileged for sure, and responsible for my life.
I kept at it, with little to no money, with trauma eating my brain, with children in tow and relationships breaking down. My spirit has been determined. Not to say that survival is a bad (or good) place to be, survival IS, I suspected thrival IS also.
I was right about that.
Post traumatic growth is a real possibility, for me, for you and the world.
Surviving felt like success, felt like I was winning, felt like an incredible stressful, yet complete way to live. Survival offered me something to hold on to, a certainty and a safe place to be. Familiar. It was not an option for me, survival was what I had, and there is more.
Thrival feels like a relative I knew I had, but hadn't met yet. It feels unfamiliar, but welcome, scary at times and fortifying.
Integration is key to a whole Self, other and world.
There is no perfectly safe, perfectly whole or perfect way to be. Doing the work of asking for help, answering the call, living into the wholeness of generosity and embracing life as practice is a generative centrepoint for me to move from.
Do you know what centre from which you move?
Hint: judgment is part of being human and can skew the observation of what is. Inviting judgments to go have a cup of tea while you look inwards can help unearth the centre point within.
Below are the blog and tips for Jan 2025. May what I have shared here and the info in these articles offer you clarity on where you are and where you want to be.
Burnout blog:
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One powerful commitment is what it takes.
Check out the 12 stages of Burnout and tips to heal, deal and feel well.
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Winter resource blog:
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Preserving the Salt of the Earth
Resources for taking care of you, and yours, this winter
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